The Origin Story
For over 30 years, I bought feminine clothing in secret, wore it in private, and eventually purged it all in shame. This cycle repeated more times than I can count.
It started when I was 12. My mum discovered I'd been wearing my sister's panties and socks. She never said a word—just quietly bought me my own. My dad never knew. That small act of acceptance stayed with me, even as decades of shame piled on top of it.
At 16, I started bodybuilding. Looking back, part of me was already running.
In 2013, I quit drinking and threw myself into training harder than ever. I was 39. If I couldn't stop wanting to wear feminine clothes, maybe I could make it impossible—get so big, so undeniably masculine, that nothing would ever fit. I worked obsessively. On my 45th birthday, I did my first professional bodybuilding shoot: 10% body fat, 20kg of added muscle. I kept pushing.
It didn't work. I still came back to it. Every time.
Last year, it got bad. I felt deeply unhappy in a way I couldn't ignore anymore. I'm 51 now. Time is slipping away to be my true self.
So I stopped hiding. Not transition, not performance, not a statement—just wearing what I want to wear, as myself. A man in a skirt, walking into a café.
This year, with help from a coach, I rebuilt my training from the ground up. No longer fighting the feminine—training for it. An hourglass silhouette: the shoulders I already built, a narrower waist, developed glutes and hips. The body now serves how I want to present in the clothes.
What This Is (And Isn't)
This is:
- A man wearing feminine clothes publicly as authentic self-expression
- A bodybuilder training for non-traditional aesthetics
- A resource for an underserved community
- 30+ years of private exploration finally going public
This isn't:
- Transition or gender questioning
- Fetish or sexual content
- A political statement or activism
- Drag or performance
- Fitness influencer content
The Two Tracks
These aren't parallel projects—they're the same project. The physique serves the presentation.
BODY
Hypertrophy training for an hourglass aesthetic. Targeting 0.83-0.85 waist-to-hip ratio. 2 upper / 4 lower split with leg priority. This is about building a shape that serves how I want to present.
WEAR
Wearing feminine clothing publicly as myself. Inspired by Mark Bryan—a man who wears what he likes without justification or explanation. Ending 30+ years of buy-hide-purge cycles.
Who This Is For
If you're a man who's ever worn feminine clothing in secret and wondered what it would be like to just... go outside. If you're training for aesthetics that don't fit the traditional masculine mold. If you've been looking for practical guides written by someone who actually understands.
This is for you. You're not alone. And you don't need to justify anything.
Get In Touch
General enquiries: hello@the-hourglass-project.com